Be Happy

Last night I was reading some thoughts on reacting.  On how sometimes we get stuck in this trap of thinking that the things that happen to us are what determines if we're happy or sad. When really we need to be happy and strong and at peace with ourselves no matter what is going on in our lives.  This is hard for me to understand.  My mom has been telling me this for years and I kept thinking it was just some crazy psychologist talk.  But when I was reading last night it struck me how right this is.  In the past year as I've had repeated miscarriages, I've kept thinking that I should be upset and sad and depressed because this is so hard.  When really I can be happy and strong and at peace no matter what is going on.  When I let myself think that I can only be happy when things are going well I'm trapping myself into an unhappy life.  When I let my emotions be reactions to things that happen I'm giving away my control to circumstances.  Now this is where I always get confused, "So I am supposed to have this hard thing happen in my life and not react to it or let it upset me, that doesn't make any sense." And this is what I think, I can feel sad that I had another miscarriage and still BE happy.  So I'm going to work on this and also realizing that my mom is way smarter than I give her credit for.  Also this is the really cool blog I was reading that lead to my train of thoughts. So be happy!